My failures in life have freed me.

I’m not where I thought I would be at 40. I thought happiness meant having a career, making good money, living in a big house with a white picket fence – and I did that. But I wasn’t happy. Something was lacking in my life, inside me, and I was incomplete. Then failure struck, and I had to take a chance. If not now, when?



As women, we tend to live our lives a certain way for a variety of reasons. We grow up experiencing societal pressures to blossom into these successful, well balanced, driven women that have no problem with wearing multiple hats. There’s the career hat, the family hat, the hat you wear around friends and family to show how happy you are with your ridiculous hat collection…

But failure changes that. It forces you to reevaluate EVERYTHING. You question your path and your place on it; you question whether or not you have enough time to right yourself on that path. What if it’s the wrong path? Do you have time to find a new one? Or, even scarier, FORGE a new one? It’s much easier to live your own life, out there, and on your terms, when you realize that you’ve got less of it to lose. When you’re at rock bottom and the only way is up, what better time to rethink your escape?

Failure is a turning point. We know what we want now and we know what makes us happy. It gives us the opportunity to be true to ourselves.

I’ve got three words for you:

Take a chance.


Boy, it’s easy for me to type that, isn’t it? From the safety of my 40-year old self, not caring about what people think of me, safely behind my computer screen in the comfort of my hotel, it is really easy for me to tell you to take a chance. But I’m going to tell you something that’s really important for you to know, especially if you’re not being true to who you are and who you want to be.



You will never get today back.


Each day is an opportunity to do one thing just for you – to live life out loud, on your terms, even if just for a little bit. At first, you’ll feel that it’s selfish, and then, later, you’ll feel that it’s the most amazing thing you’ve ever done, and you’ll wonder why you waited so long.

It’s okay to start small. Take five minutes today and going over tomorrow’s appointments in your day planner, and do something just for you. Something that reinforces what life on your terms means to you. Set a goal. Talk to someone new. Write down a dream. Buy the dress – and the boots. Look up information for that class you want to take. Look up a YouTube video that shows you how to do that skill you’ve been thinking about mastering. I don’t care what it is.

Take a chance!